Imagine that one day you put yourself some good and useful purpose, for example learning a foreign language. It all starts really neat, you can light up this purpose, willing to start to do, with the zeal to learn the rules, hard to cram irregular verbs, but... gradually your enthusiasm somehow falls, goes on there. You do less, with less and less desire, and then stop, and pop it.
Why is this happening? Yes, because any serious purpose is a challenge that requires exit from the comfort zone. By setting this goal, you challenge yourself: "Hey, let's do it! You can do! That weak?!". To implement this you should start doing something new, unusual, that you have not done before. Such challenges require a special energy costs to overcome the potential barrier for the exit of our comfort zone, and we instinctively resist that - because they used to live as we live each day, make the same monotonous actions in the same way. It's so convenient, and to change something, will have to tighten and do something.
Even if we understand the mind of the necessity and usefulness of changes, our subconscious will strongly resist to come up with a thousand different excuses. To master a foreign language requires regular classes, it is necessary to allocate the time, will not show the extra couple of hours of TV, hang in the Internet in the "classmates"and purposefully sit down for textbooks and study. And so did not want... And here we are, torn between their "must" and "do not want", with varying degrees of success are trying to force myself to do so. And if I had still give in to the influence of "do not want", the result is that very often we get remorse, dissatisfaction, and other not very nice things which affect our self-esteem. In the end we begin to think that simply unable to achieve its goal, and this is actually write themselves into the category of losers.
Where does "not want", reluctant to do anything? Quite often, this is banal laziness. But what is laziness? Essentially, this is a direct consequence of the lack of attractiveness goals. If our goal is an inspiration to us sufficiently, we will never be too lazy to move it. And to it we were inspired by and attracted to 100%, you need to put it more specifically, the maximum specifying all the details, by removing all unnecessary, and all undesirable for us aspects of minimizing.
Ask yourself: "why do I need To speak a foreign language? The importance of this skill for me? What do I get after mastering them? What new doors will open in front of me?". Based on the answers to these questions, you will have a more concrete idea of what you actually want this language study. Thus, language is not the ultimate goal, but an intermediate one on the way to another, more global goals. You can ask these questions again for this new target, and so on until you feel a - here it is! Here's what I'm really ready to devote their time, and ready to spend energy!
Check whether this is a new destination for you attractive for 100%? If not - what was it you don't like? As you can work around this undesirable aspect? How can reformulate the purpose, that it is excluded?
Next, decide the extent to which You need for this purpose the skill of a language - whether You want to communicate freely with native speakers, or enough to be able to somehow explain in restaurants and shops, or You will be quite satisfied to be able to read texts with a dictionary? How best to coach it is the skill that is most important? As You will see, that have already reached the level that You need? What will be the criterion to achieve this level?